Your Relationship within Marriage

Your relationship within marriage.

The three stages of being married.

Stage one: when we meet someone and start to see them all the time and then think of getting married and start a family.

Stage two: Is when we get to know them and ask all kinds of questions like over 100 questions before marriage. SO when things come up you both know how to take care of them.

Stage three: Getting married and starting a family.

Now there are also three stages of family life:

Stage one: get got married and enjoying each other and spending as much time together as possible within working, sleeping, and when there is children taking care of them.

Stage two: Now is the time to keep date night and get a baby sitter so you both can have some what I call us time. Just get a baby sitter and go out and eat and just talk about all the things that have happened. Go for a walk on the beach, park or some where you can just go for a walk and just talk and enjoy each other’s company.

Stage three: As we get older if we do not keep date night we tend to grow apart and even though we live together we might not be together. At one time if you do not do date night soon you become like roommates and just do things that need to be daily.

Now within this stage: there is the mind, heart, body, spirit. Within our relationship with our spouse we might still Love (heart) body (sex) still together (mind) spiritually bonded. (Spiritual)

If we lose one we can still be together but once we lose two and then three. And there is only love left like you love your children but glad when they move out. If we feel that way about our spouse we tend to want them to grow up and move out like the children. Most of time happens we start to look for a new relationship and soon we tell our spouse to go and find someone else. IT is time to move on and move out.

When our spouse becomes like one of our children we tend to treat them that way. Then when they are gone we tend to miss them like we miss our children when they move out.

It is not that we miss them but we miss the idea of them being there to talk to when we need someone to talk too. We just have to find someone else to talk to so we can replace them.

Now if we take care of our marriage relationship then we can spend the rest of our lives with them.

We have to keep date night at least 3 times a week, enjoy each other company, bed time, hug, kiss, and just be there when things go wrong. Do little things like candy, flowers, going to dinner just the two of you? On the week end have family day with all the relatives, like a cook our or a cook out at the beach for the day. To spend time with either and family. Like the old saying God those that pray together say together.

A woman needs to be show love and a man needs to be made love to for them to show love. The woman within any home is the most important for she is the one that will make the home a home or she will be the one to that will destroy the home and there will be a divorce for she has not performed her job as the only one that can make the home and home.

Now for one last thing no matter what I have said here always remember one thing:

We have to learn to keep earthly things and spiritual things separated and as we go throughout our lives we can see and tell the difference between them. This way we can tell if someone is telling us the truth or not.

For sometimes we are told things and we do not or cannot determine if they are true or not but once we come to the understanding of what is earthly and what is spiritual then we can determine what the truth is or what is not the truth.

What goes in your mouth will not defile you but what comes out of your mouth will defile you.

For what you say and do is also within your heart.

Now for the last thing: Always do what you want to do as you got throughout your lives for when you get old you can look back and say I would have done it all over again.